I’ve got another post that I’m working on, but I just ran across this at Hot Air, and had to pass it along. Seems that Planned Parenthood of New York City wants you to be able to spread the gospel of baby-killing even at the Thanksgiving dinner table, but recognizes that “I’m thankful for the right to kill children before they become a burden!” probably doesn’t have the right ring to it. So they offer these tips for a more propagandistic Turkey Day feast:

The holidays are upon us! Going home or getting together with relatives for the holidays is always a stressful time, but if your family members are the type who regularly protest outside the local Planned Parenthood, you know that this holiday is going to be a doozy.

Luckily, we have some tips for surviving those awkward conversations. So read on, and bring some diplomacy and understanding to the table along with that pumpkin pie.

1. Avoid bumper speak talk. A slogan might work for a poster or a button, but in a conversation it just leads to a heated back and forth. Try to steer clear of catchall phrases—they very rarely lead to common ground or change anyone’s mind.

I’ll agree with this one. That makes it all the more important for those who care about life to know what they’re talking about when they engage those who are not so minded.
2. Remember the big picture. Debating when life begins or whether or not abortion is federally funded may get you nowhere. Instead focus on your shared values and the big picture—for instance, talk about how you believe everyone should be able to afford to go to the doctor, or how the decision about when and whether to become a parent is a personal one. You never know, you just may find yourself actually agreeing with your relatives.
The “big picture” is apparently not about whether a human life is being snuffed out, so that it will never be able to join the family around the Thanksgiving Day table. No, it’s actually about health insurance, or radical individualism.
3. Know your facts, but keep the conversation more global. It’s good to clarify misinformation—for example, the misconception that emergency contraception ends a pregnancy—but staying there can cause a fight. Instead, try to clarify, and then transition back to the underlying value of why you believe what you do.
By all means, know your facts, especially the ones Planned Parenthood would rather you didn’t know. (For instance, that a fertilized egg, even before implantation, fits the definition of life, and that it’s genetic code makes it human.) But by all means, get to values, such as the value of allowing a person to be born even if that person’s existence will be an inconvenience or burden to his or her parents.
4. Create a space for the listener. Ambivalence is normal. Reproductive health is not a black and white issue, and there is no one right or wrong way to feel. Be open and accepting of other people’s personal views, and instead focus on the distinction between your personal beliefs, and what should or shouldn’t be imposed on others. For example, “I might not personally choose to get an abortion, but I could never decide for another woman whether or not she was ready to become a parent.”
Create a space, but don’t ever concede that a view that says abortion is wrong is valid. Take note of the false tolerance here: “I would never impose my views on another woman, but if that other woman believes that abortion destroys a human life, she had better not act on it in a way that effects anyone else. Only I can do that.”

5. Learn to diffuse. There are some debates you’re just never going to win, and not all questions are created equal—in fact many are designed to start a fight. Instead of getting caught in the weeds, try to recognize when a question isn’t a real question, and transition back to what you feel is the bigger picture:

Question: “I don’t want my tax dollars going toward abortions.”

Response: “Actually, because of the Hyde Amendment, tax dollars can’t go toward supporting abortion. But I do believe that everyone deserves access to basic, preventive reproductive care, and that it’s important we support those services. No one should ever have to choose between paying rent and buying birth control.”

In other words, learn to obfuscate, part of which is learning to use language in an Orwellian fashion that will misdirect your interlocutor into thinking that you are talking about something entirely different.

6. It’s all in how you frame it. In so many of these political disagreements, when things get heated we revert back to bumper sticker slogans instead of really talking about an issue. Instead, take a few deep breaths and try personalizing the issue, or evoking empathy.

Oftentimes it’s easier to dismiss abortion or other health care procedures as “bad” when it’s framed as a political issue. But when you’re talking about an individual woman making a personal decision, it’s harder to just write off. Also keep in mind that everyone doesn’t have to feel the same way about an issue to find something to agree on. For example:

  • A woman may have an abortion for any number of reasons. Some of these reasons may not seem right to us, but even if we disagree, it is better that each person be able to make her own decision.
  • I can accept someone’s decision to end a pregnancy, even if I wouldn’t make the same decision myself.
  • There’s just something about pregnancy—everybody has feelings about it. Each circumstance is different, so we should respect and support women and families who must make life-altering decisions about whether or not to have a child.
  • We can try to imagine the heartbreak of a family when they get the news that a test has shown there is something wrong with their baby.
  • Ultimately, we all want healthy, thriving families and that is why we need policies that respect our ability to make thoughtful decisions and support us in our roles as caregivers and breadwinners.
In other words, it’s all about how you spin it so as to deflect attention away from the one being killed to the one who is “exercising her rights.” Yeah, that’s the ticket.
7. Know where you stand. It’s easier to talk about what you believe in if you know what you believe in and why beforehand. Ask yourself why you believe that reproductive rights, or sex education, or health care, are important, and you might be surprised at how universal your reasons are. For example, you may believe that sex education is important because you feel it’s the best way to protect young people. Or you might believe abortion should be legal because you could never make the decision about when someone else was ready to become a parent.
I agree with this one as well. We should know where we stand, and why, and be able to articulate it in a winsome, convincing way that also exhibits integrity–something about which Planned Parenthood knows nothing.
I can imagine the table talk based on these “tips” now, but I finished dinner a short while ago, and am having a hard enough time keeping it down just reading this. So you’ll have to fill in your own blanks here.